Amidst the season of gift giving, is receiving gifts your love language? Do you happen to know your love language? It took me awhile to discover mine, and believe it or not, it was through adverse circumstances that I fully recognized it!
Here's a great website link for more information on this vital subject:
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/communication-and-conflict/learn-to-speak-your-spouses-love-language/understanding-the-five-love-languages
The following quote from the Focus on the Family article best describes my love language, i.e., Words of affirmation:
"One way to express love emotionally is to use words that build up. Solomon, author of ancient Hebrew Wisdom Literature, wrote, 'The tongue has the power of life and death' (Proverbs 18:21, NIV). Many couples have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming one another.
"Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love. They are best expressed in simple, straightforward statements of affirmation, such as:
'You look sharp in that suit.'
'Do you every look incredible in that dress! Wow!'
'I really like how you're always on time to pick me up at work.'
'You can always make me laugh.' "
As I previously mentioned, when someone hurled a cutting word my way, it bothered me greatly and diminished my creativity. Conversely, as an example, when I would bake something special for my family, my husband would say, "Wow, that looks like it belongs in Sunset magazine!" The compliments made me flourish and have remained as jewels in my heart.
Now you might comment, "Well, no one likes to be ridiculed or verbally attacked." Agreed, but when God has created us with our specific love language, assaults thereon deplete our reservoirs of creativity and the ability to function in our given language.
The five love languages are not solely for couples. Since they are resident within each one of us, they are to be exercised and lavished upon our children, grandchildren, co-workers, neighbors, or whomever.
If you're unsure of your language, there are online quizzes that you can take to discover yours!
I decided to exercise my love language toward my youngest grand kiddos this year when specifically selecting the above words of affirmation for them. I typed their first and middle names and using the first letter of each name, I blessed them with words that will still be inside their spirits as well as their picture frames for many years to come.
For those of you who have read my book titled Stirrings of The Spirit, you are very familiar with why these grandchildren are such special treasures since God miraculously spared their mother's life twenty-five years ago.
I hope you don't mind the extra-large picture in this post as I wanted to convey the full context of my message.
Plan to bless someone by discovering and implementing your love language. You're sure to make this world a better place if you do!
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